The number of deaths among Lilly Lake residents
between November, 2008 and September, 2009 motivated the creation
of this page. The purpose is to provide some information about and
links to resources that can help the survivors. The Association
gratefully acknowledges materials from Margaret Ann's
Place that were used to provide this information.
Grief may produce emotions such as shock, anger, and guilt. You
may think the sadness will never go way. This is normal. In time,
you'll occasionally find yourself in a moment of happiness.
Eventually, you will return to normal. Be patient with yourself
and allow the process to unfold in you at its own pace.
Every person grieves individually on his or her own schedule. The
normally accepted stages of grief as specified by Dr. Elisabeth
These stages are not a rigid framework. Grieving is like a roller
coaster with many highs and lows. You may go back and forth
between stages. At the start, the highs and lows will be deeper
and longer. They'll become less severe as time passes. You may
feel as if you're going crazy or in a bad dream. You may question
your religious beliefs. You may experience shock, disbelief,
intense sadness, guilt, anger, fear, anxiety, and physical
symptoms like insomnia.
The most important factor in healing is to have someone to talk to. Sharing your loss and connecting to others will help you heal.
Resources for people dealing with grief and loss:
http://www.compassionatefriends.org (support for families after a child dies)
http://mayoclinic.com/ (search for the term you want to read about)
http://www.learnpsychology.org/now/grief/ Navigating Grief: A Guidebook for Grief Awareness and Understanding
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/co-occurring-disorders/grief/ A facility for treatment of mental health problems
Many resources exist to help
http://www.highschoolblues.com (information for high schoolers on anxiety, loneliness, and other emotional issues)
http://www.samaritansofboston.org/ (teens who are supportive listeners). Their help line is 1-800-252-TEEN.
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, immediate assistance to individuals in suicidal crisis. Call 1-800-273-8255 (TALK).
http://vetoviolence.cdc.gov/education-suicide.html (Veto Violence)
https://youth.gov/ (Select Youth Topics)
http://www.learnpsychology.org/suicide-depression-student-guidebook/ Suicide and Depression Awareness for Students
https://www.whitesandstreatment.com/healthy-mind-healthy-body-suicide-prevention-guide/ Healthy Mind and Healthy Body: Suicide Prevention Guide
Warning signs of potential
I Ideation (talking about death and planning to die)
S Substance abuse
A Anxiety, agitation, unable to sleep or sleeping all the time
T Trapped, as if there's no way out
W Withdrawal from friends, family, and society
A Anger, rage, seeking revenge
R Recklessness, engaging in risky activities
M Mood change, sometimes dramatic
Signs of extreme risk:
Seek help as soon as possible by contacting a mental health
professional or calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for a referral.
The choking game
Children are playing a dangerous choking game where they choke themselves to get a head rush. Unfortunately, in some instances, they don't get out of it in time and they die. The following YouTube video provides some background information: